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This is a Blog full of my inner most thoughts and opinions. Some times there are deeper then others, its just how my mind works.

Sunday, March 4, 2012

Love For Teenagers

When you're young, like I am. You have to learn to make the best of your time. These days people get so caught up in their relationships. They put everything, emotionally into it. Then when it doesn't work they break down. I know, I've been there. I think that yes you should put emotion and care into any relationship and yes even at a young age you should have a relationship. It teaches you things you need to know and they are easier to learn earlier in life. The problem is the break down even children feel after the relationship has ended. They take on emotional stress, more than anyone their age should have to handle. The worst part is if they have to handle it alone. I know this from experience. I've had it go both ways. I've had to deal with the end of a relationship alone and it was horrible. It was still horrible the time I had people there for me but it was much less so. The point there is that you should help people who are hurting. Even in the smallest of ways, it will mean the world to them, like those things meant to me. Now I try to stay strong and be myself through everything. I think that is a smart thing to do, I admit it isn't easy but it hurts so much less if you do. I just can't be completely dependent on the person I'm with, I know it sounds easy but for a lot of people its not and it took me a long time to do. Anyone can do it though. They aren't everything, you don't need them, you can find someone else. There are billions of people in the world to chose from, you don't need the one that makes you suffer, they aren't worth it. I promise you. My point in this is to tell you that you have to stay strong and keep your composure through everything, or try, don't get caught up in things like I used to. For example I promised myself I wouldn't let my boyfriend make me cry, and I won't because I promised. I do love him though, I just need to keep that boundary so I can keep my strength. Its all about what YOU need to work on, this is what I need to help me. What do you need to help you get through the trials of life? The trials so many struggle and suffer through.

Saturday, March 3, 2012

What happens to sheltered kids, and its NOT good

I'm going to talk about parents, again. I have an over protective mom so I'm pretty sure I know what I'm talking about because I'm talking from the kids point of view here. Over protective parents THINK they're doing whats best but teenagers that are locked in their house all the time are just bound to make those mistakes they would have made as a teenager if they had their freedom, as soon as they’re free. We have to make those mistakes and learn from them sometime, its better earlier than later because it can go slow and the parents can regulate it one thing at a time so nothing gets to out of control and no one gets hurt, when we’re free we’ll go crazy and do everything we wanted to do, we’ll do it all at once and it will be chaos and can lead to us being hurt, it can put us in danger, or even kill us. I’m aware of that but I think its worth the risks to do what I’ve always wanted to do but never could. None of those desires go away, they just build up and make life itself unbearable. I’m going to do all those things I should have been able to do when I was younger, even if it kills me. Whats the point of living an existence I'm not proud of, one I didn't enjoy? I see no reason that is why I'd rather die than live and never do anything with my life and I know that I'm not the only person like this. I may be the only person really thinking intensely about it but I'm not the only one thinking it. So if you are a parent then please let your children have some freedom. Be there for them when they need you and don't make things to hard on them. You want them to trust and love you but still be able to listen to you. I know what you want but no one seems to know how to get it. You have to TRUST your children for them to trust you, trust is mutual. Not letting them do anything or go anywhere makes them think you don't trust them, keeps them sheltered for the real world. Then when the real world comes to them they won't know how to handle it, they won't know what to do and that leads to bad things, very bad things. I would know, I'm a teenager myself. I've seen it in a small scale and I can barely handle it like that. I won't know what to do in the real world and I know that.