What happens to sheltered kids, and its NOT good

I'm going to talk about parents, again. I have an over protective mom so I'm pretty sure I know what I'm talking about because I'm talking from the kids point of view here. Over protective parents THINK they're doing whats best but teenagers that are locked in their house all the time are just bound to make those mistakes they would have made as a teenager if they had their freedom, as soon as they’re free. We have to make those mistakes and learn from them sometime, its better earlier than later because it can go slow and the parents can regulate it one thing at a time so nothing gets to out of control and no one gets hurt, when we’re free we’ll go crazy and do everything we wanted to do, we’ll do it all at once and it will be chaos and can lead to us being hurt, it can put us in danger, or even kill us. I’m aware of that but I think its worth the risks to do what I’ve always wanted to do but never could. None of those desires go away, they just build up and make life itself unbearable. I’m going to do all those things I should have been able to do when I was younger, even if it kills me. Whats the point of living an existence I'm not proud of, one I didn't enjoy? I see no reason that is why I'd rather die than live and never do anything with my life and I know that I'm not the only person like this. I may be the only person really thinking intensely about it but I'm not the only one thinking it. So if you are a parent then please let your children have some freedom. Be there for them when they need you and don't make things to hard on them. You want them to trust and love you but still be able to listen to you. I know what you want but no one seems to know how to get it. You have to TRUST your children for them to trust you, trust is mutual. Not letting them do anything or go anywhere makes them think you don't trust them, keeps them sheltered for the real world. Then when the real world comes to them they won't know how to handle it, they won't know what to do and that leads to bad things, very bad things. I would know, I'm a teenager myself. I've seen it in a small scale and I can barely handle it like that. I won't know what to do in the real world and I know that.

Measuring Life

I hate when older people will speak to you like you know nothing. Like their plethora of knowledge highly exceeds your own when in reality they don't know just how much that person they are speaking down to has went through through out the trials of their life. Personally I know people my age that people don't really take seriously that they really should. I don't want to put anyone else's personal life out there but I'll use my self as an example. People think I don't know what its like to lose someone because no one very close to me has died quite yet. I understand that yes it is something traumatic and hard to go through but personally I think I have been through worse. I'm not saying it is as sad or should be pitied but I'm just saying that it is if not more, just as emotionally scarring to have a parent completely abandon you. Their argument is that I can still look that parent up and find him but honestly, at least the person you lost didn't chose to go, they didn't abandon you simply because they didn't want you. If my father died, I wouldn't even know that he had passed so he is as out of my life, as someone who had died would be. 
Then there is this false thought process that plays out years instead of experiences. You could be a million but have experienced little to no change and never had to cope with much in life compared to a teenager who's parent walked out on them,who's parent had a significant other that abused them and that teenager, as a child, feared for their life. The teenager could have been neglected and forced to care for their younger siblings, or they could have no parents at all and had to bare life always going from foster home to foster home until someone finally adopted them. 

What I'm trying to say is that older people need to stop assuming that they have been through more or are more intelligent then someone younger than them. Life isn't measured in years it is measured in your experiences and overall the contents of your life!

BOTDF Mom

Okay so I'm a big Blood on the Dance Floor fan and so I watch a lot of things about them. I watched one video and found the most amazing comment about BOTDF being banned or kicked out of the warped tour... Here it is "I am a mother of a 15 year old who attended Warp Tour with her I love BOTDF. Where can I sign a petition for the band to stay on tour? I would love to know why these parents are allowed to drop off their 11 year old children anywhere let alone a concert! In most states you cannot even leave them home alone! I bet those girls weren't being so innocent that day and got busted or scared so they now have a story at someone else expense! my best wishes to BOTDF .....Jess's Mom" I thought it was the most amazing thing in the world. Rarely ever do you see a mother stick up for her child's music and support their musical interest. Heck my mom doesn't really support much that I do. She is to close minded and set in her ways but this mom was totally open to her daughter's interests. I would love a mom like that. Some people may find it embarrassing but let me tell you I'd do anything to have a mom that was that way. So Jess you are one lucky girl. Anyway I just thought that was absolutely amazing! I thought I'd share it with everyone and maybe it is something moms can learn from. As long as you're open to things like this I think you and your child will have a better relationship. The most you can do is try and my advice is to try because like I said if I had a mom like that I think I'd be in heaven. I wouldn't mind going to any concert with my mom as long as she liked it with me. Maybe that is just me though? Well I don't think it is.

Why Teenagers DON'T tell their parents everything

Just to tell anyone who may not know. If you haven't read my blog before I am a teenager and I know this title may not apply to everyone's parents but in most cases it does. Parents say they want to know everything but what they don't know is that parents, like children, have to gain trust. If a child tells their parent something and they flip out on them instead of talking to them rationally or if they handle simply situations poorly children won't be comfortable telling their parents things. This applies to any topic or field of conversation. If they are trying to tell you they are dating someone you don't like and you flip out, they will carry that into other topics such as drugs and peer pressure as well. In my case my mother never seems to really care about the words that escape my lips. I will tell her about an celebrity idol I have and she never seems to care or really listen. I remember that and just decide not to tell her things. Not just things about my idols but also things about what happen to me in my day to day life. For example, who I'm dating and things that happened that day even if they are important. And its not because I have anything to hide, it is because well she didn't want to know about me then and she probably won't now either. Another place where parents need to let children speak is during arguments. Most parents get mad and just basically tell their children to shut up when actually they may have some valid points that you didn't think of. Parents need to understand that they are only human to and that their children have a good level of intelligence as well. Despite what parents might think you didn't teach them EVERY thing they know so you don't know everything about them, no matter how much it is you know.

Daddy Issues

I miss him so much... And by him I don't mean a lover. I mean someone who was like a father to me. I just hate how people can just up and leave. It makes me feel worthless and stupid. Not only that but it seems like it permanently damages my emotional state. I feel like I can't get close to anyone with out expecting them to just up and leave. It has lead to a hand full of trust issues I don't know how to deal with. Maybe I need counseling but even then how would the treatment go without them there. I act like nothing is wrong when in reality I know there is but I also know I can't fix it and doubt anyone else can either. That is why I don't usually complain about it unless given a reason too. Maybe these Daddy Issues are what is making me so confused about everything in life. Maybe I'm just messed up. I don't know, and I may live my life never knowing, pushing all my feelings and needs back. Honestly it wouldn't surprise me if I did. It feels like all my life my need for stability has been neglected. My situations just jump all over the place, where I live, who I live with, who loves me. None of that ever stays the same for too long and it feels like I don't either... I guess my point is, people, don't abandon the ones who love you, even if you are mad at them. It could scar them for life and every bad situation gets better if you are mad at them. Especially parents, your children expect you to be one of the few people in their life that will be there for them. Even teenagers, we count on you to always be there for us and we love you. A child's love for their parent is one of the strongest loves I have ever experienced. Even if they aren't willing to admit it they need you, the ones that love you need you... (Song to explain how I feel right now)