What happens to sheltered kids, and its NOT good

I'm going to talk about parents, again. I have an over protective mom so I'm pretty sure I know what I'm talking about because I'm talking from the kids point of view here. Over protective parents THINK they're doing whats best but teenagers that are locked in their house all the time are just bound to make those mistakes they would have made as a teenager if they had their freedom, as soon as they’re free. We have to make those mistakes and learn from them sometime, its better earlier than later because it can go slow and the parents can regulate it one thing at a time so nothing gets to out of control and no one gets hurt, when we’re free we’ll go crazy and do everything we wanted to do, we’ll do it all at once and it will be chaos and can lead to us being hurt, it can put us in danger, or even kill us. I’m aware of that but I think its worth the risks to do what I’ve always wanted to do but never could. None of those desires go away, they just build up and make life itself unbearable. I’m going to do all those things I should have been able to do when I was younger, even if it kills me. Whats the point of living an existence I'm not proud of, one I didn't enjoy? I see no reason that is why I'd rather die than live and never do anything with my life and I know that I'm not the only person like this. I may be the only person really thinking intensely about it but I'm not the only one thinking it. So if you are a parent then please let your children have some freedom. Be there for them when they need you and don't make things to hard on them. You want them to trust and love you but still be able to listen to you. I know what you want but no one seems to know how to get it. You have to TRUST your children for them to trust you, trust is mutual. Not letting them do anything or go anywhere makes them think you don't trust them, keeps them sheltered for the real world. Then when the real world comes to them they won't know how to handle it, they won't know what to do and that leads to bad things, very bad things. I would know, I'm a teenager myself. I've seen it in a small scale and I can barely handle it like that. I won't know what to do in the real world and I know that.

About Jimmy "The Rev" Sullivan

Known by many people as The Rev, short for The Reverend. James Owen Sullivan was not only an amazing drummer for Avenged Sevenfold, but also a ingenious song writer. He composed much of Avenged Sevenfold's, not only music but also the lyrics to the songs too. If you actually know who I'm talking about, even a little, you'll know he died in December of 2009 from a drug overdoes. His death shook the band because Avenged Sevenfold (Commonly known as: a7x) was a band full of friends, not just because an important part of their band was gone. Jimmy was the lead singer's best friend since they were just kids. 

There is another thing that is really interesting about his death that some people don't know. This is the song they made, well actually The Rev wrote it only three days before his death. It has somewhat of a message if you listen to it. He was said to be a depressed person sometimes but he always tried to make others feel better even if he wasn't happy himself. The song he wrote before he died, which they think is a sign he knew he was going to die, was called Fiction. And > HERE < it is. His best friend, the lead singer, M. Shadows also had a few things to say about his death and this song. Obviously he was beyond the point of upset. He talks about how Jimmy (The Rev) was his best friend and was the people in their bands best friend for eighteen years and how every day he thinks about the loss of his best friend who was not only a their partner music. And going with that the band wrote a song dedicated to Jimmy (The Rev) this is called So Far Away. Here is a link to that! > ♥So Far Away♥ <

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• Jimmy introduced m. Shadows to his current wife
• He died on December 28th, 2009
• The Album "Nightmare" was dedicated to him
• Born February 10th, 1981
• He died at the age of 28
• And I'm sure some people are familiar with their saying Avenged Sevenfold (Or A7X) foREVer Obviously REV is capitalized for him :)

Measuring Life

I hate when older people will speak to you like you know nothing. Like their plethora of knowledge highly exceeds your own when in reality they don't know just how much that person they are speaking down to has went through through out the trials of their life. Personally I know people my age that people don't really take seriously that they really should. I don't want to put anyone else's personal life out there but I'll use my self as an example. People think I don't know what its like to lose someone because no one very close to me has died quite yet. I understand that yes it is something traumatic and hard to go through but personally I think I have been through worse. I'm not saying it is as sad or should be pitied but I'm just saying that it is if not more, just as emotionally scarring to have a parent completely abandon you. Their argument is that I can still look that parent up and find him but honestly, at least the person you lost didn't chose to go, they didn't abandon you simply because they didn't want you. If my father died, I wouldn't even know that he had passed so he is as out of my life, as someone who had died would be. 
Then there is this false thought process that plays out years instead of experiences. You could be a million but have experienced little to no change and never had to cope with much in life compared to a teenager who's parent walked out on them,who's parent had a significant other that abused them and that teenager, as a child, feared for their life. The teenager could have been neglected and forced to care for their younger siblings, or they could have no parents at all and had to bare life always going from foster home to foster home until someone finally adopted them. 

What I'm trying to say is that older people need to stop assuming that they have been through more or are more intelligent then someone younger than them. Life isn't measured in years it is measured in your experiences and overall the contents of your life!

Death...

Death... I never really thought about people dying around me much. It is a pretty morbid thought. Of course I have thought of it and cried but I hoped it would never have to come to that. Its different when someone you know loses someone they love. I tend to block out things that will hurt me. Hold my feelings back but I can't help but be sad that his father died. It makes me think about how I would feel so could better understand him. The problem is that I detach myself from others and/or any situation I may be in that is uncomfortable. Which give me a hard time when I'm trying to feel others pain and that is what I want to do right now... It just makes things so complicated. I don't know how to feel. I hope he rests in peace and that he had a good life but I can't really help that. I also hope that Robert some how finds the strength in himself to carry on and hopefully be happier again. He wasn't really a cheery guy to begin with. I just hope he finds an aura of normality after such a tragedy. All I can really do now is pray because he doesn't have the heart to talk to people at the moment. I can't say I understand but I can see why he wouldn't want to talk to anyone and could see why he would be upset. I want to help but honestly there probably isn't anything I can do about this situation. I wouldn't even know what to say.